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THE VALUE OF TRUST

THE VALUE OF TRUST

A teenager wants to go to a party, but she’s sure her mom won’t let her. So she and her friend concoct a false cover story.

What’s the big deal? Most kids lie to their parents from time to time, and their parents probably lied to their parents. Despite rhetoric about virtue being its own reward, a great many adults – and a higher proportion of kids – are more likely to make their choices based on a calculation of risks and benefits than moral principles.

Since young people are particularly susceptible to choices that indulge impulses and favor immediate needs and wants, we need to teach them how making bad choices to gratify such desires can sabotage their most important relationships and impede critical life objectives.
Every dishonest act has at least two potential consequences: 1) the actual penalty, and 2) loss of trust. The second is by far the more serious and underestimated.

This is especially true in parent-child relationships. Where trust is important, there are no little lies. When parents don’t believe their children, their cords of control will be tighter and held longer. The price of lying is lost freedom.

It’s often difficult to predict how a decision today will affect tomorrow, but dishonesty often has a lasting negative impact on relationships and reputations as well as self-image and character.

From both a moral and practical perspective, honesty is the best policy.

How To Help Your Child Create and Keep A New Year’s Resolution

How To Help Your Child Create and Keep A New Year’s Resolution

The quote we normally put in a corner is “It is not what you do once in a while, it’s what you do day in and day out that makes the difference.”

This is the perfect time to help your child set goals for 2019, and help him/her start thinking how to make it the best Year ever.
A lot of teens want to make changes but most of them struggle to make these changes a reality. Some lack the self-discipline necessary. You can help them create realistic resolutions, and provide support and guidance as he/she works to create the change.
Discovering the ability to create positive change at a young age can help children begin to understand how much they can accomplish in life, if they set their minds to it.

Let’s try the following;

1) Discuss Resolutions Ideas: Share any of yours with them. Discuss passed resolutions and whether you kept them or not. Show curiosity for their goals for 2015.If he/she has no ideas, then encourage her to begin thinking of what she/he will do differently in 2019.
Break them down to topics like Academic, Social, Financial, Health, etc. For example, getting better grades, making good friends, saving for a gadget, losing weight etc.
It is important that it is the child who establishes her goals. Resolutions only work if the child sets them and is motivated to keep them.

2) Create Measurable Goals: Help them turn their broad ideas and resolutions into measurable goals, eg, I want to increase my Math grade from a C to a B.  I want to save five thousand Naira monthly, etc.

3) Establish Action Plans: Discuss how to reach the goal, discuss specific strategies like practicing one hundred Math sums daily, etc Get as specific as possible about the steps that will help her stay on track even on days she is discouraged.
A child who wants to save money for eg could have weekly or monthly budget meeting with you, this will help her stick it out.

Above all, Praise their efforts, provide lots of support and role model strategies that can help them become better.

 

We trust this simple guide has helped you and your child this season. Leave a review or comment and share to help another child or parent.